Why Women Suffer in Polygyny - Unveiling the Hidden Impact of Toxic Monogamy
Imagine, if you will, that a marriage is equivalent to a beautiful garden. Couples often celebrate their union, believing they have reached an extraordinary milestone. It's as if they've acquired a piece of land, and they lock the gates, thinking their job is done. But, in reality, that's just the beginning. As the years pass, this garden starts to lose its vibrancy, and the fruits of their labor diminish. Women forget about nurturing and harvesting the good stuff, becoming fixated on protecting their garden with padlocks and cameras which is the masculines role. And as a result, this is what drives the man away and invests in a new garden where he can deal with the padlocks ,cameras and pest control and where he is with a woman who plants the seeds he gives her and multiplies them and is able to infuse life into the garden. But then women get taken a back complaining about hard they worked protecting and locking up the garden when that wasn’t even her role.
Point 1: When a Woman's Life Revolves Around Her Husband
One of the reasons why women suffer in polygyny is the expectation that their life should revolve solely around their husband. Their identity becomes intertwined with their spouse, neglecting their individuality and personal growth. They may lose sight of their own dreams and goals, sacrificing them for the sake of the relationship.
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Point 2: The Sabotaging Sacrifices - Giving Up Personal Goals and Dreams
Furthermore, women may find themselves giving up their personal goals and dreams to fulfill societal expectations. They may feel compelled to prioritize the household and motherhood, neglecting their own passions and ambitions. This self-sacrifice can lead to feelings of emptiness and unfulfillment.
Point 3: The Absence of a Personal Life Outside the Relationship
Another factor contributing to women's suffering in polygyny is the absence of a personal life outside of their role as a wife and mother. Their entire existence revolves around their husband and children, with no independent pursuits or social interactions. This lack of personal fulfillment can lead to a sense of depletion and lost identity.
Realization and Consequences:
As time passes, women begin to realize the emptiness and void that comes from investing solely in their husband. They may discover that their spouses are investing their time, emotions, and resources elsewhere, leaving them feeling neglected and abandoned. This realization can be a painful awakening.
Moreover, the emptiness women experience stems not from how much they have done for their partners, but from the intention behind their actions. Many women may have invested in their relationships to be loved, rather than doing it out of genuine love.
In essence, they have divorced themselves in order to maintain the societal ideal of a picture-perfect marriage, sacrificing their true selves in the process.
Unlocking the Solution:
Now that we understand the hidden impact of monogamy, let's explore some solutions to alleviate the suffering that women may face in polygyny.
Solution 1: Reflecting on the Relationship
Take some dedicated time, between 3 to 10 days, to reflect on your relationship over the past years. This introspective period allows you to gain clarity on the dynamics, challenges, and areas of growth within your partnership.
Solution 2: Understanding Your Motivation
Recognize the purpose behind every action you take for your partner. Does it come from a place of unconditional love, or is it driven by the fear of being replaced? Understanding your motivations allows you to regain agency in your own happiness.
Solution 3: Rediscovering Yourself
Discover your own gems and currencies to foster a healthy relationship with yourself. Engage in activities that bring you joy, pursue your passions, and connect with your inner desires. This process may be challenging, and seeking professional help can provide valuable support.
Solution 4: Reconnecting with Nature
Spend time in nature, away from the noise of everyday life. Nature has a way of rejuvenating our spirit and helping us regain a sense of balance and clarity.
Solution 5: Redefining Meanings and Self-Worth
Challenge the meanings you've associated with monogamy and self-worth. Explore alternative perspectives and understand that your value goes beyond the confines of a relationship. Similarly, debunk the negative connotations associated with polygyny and recognize your worth as an individual.
Solution 5: live for yourself. If you’re living for anything that wilt and wither you will wilt and wither with it
As we conclude, I urge you to think about how you can revamp and bring life back to your relationship garden. Remember, a healthy and fulfilling relationship starts with nurturing oneself. By investing in your personal growth and reclaiming your individuality, you can create a relationship that thrives.
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